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It would be ideal if the assessment above were true and universally valid. Yet some of us put too much price on what others think,...

It would be ideal if the assessment above were true and universally valid. Yet some of us put too much price on what others think, often abandoning their own evaluation and allowing themselves to be influenced by the people around them.

This is how the so called standards appear. Standards of the epoch, of the society we live in, of normality, of… beauty. This is how comparisons appear. And this is how, unfortunately, complexes appear.

This subject can be debated on endlessly, but I will stop on one example, wrapping it in the title.

Does a simple physical trait as the one dictated by our hair, add points to who we are on the inside? How much can contentment or discontentment towards our haircut could make us beautiful or, on the contrary, ruin our day from the moment we open our eyes in the morning?

Oh, but we are so different that the possible answers to this question could turn into the arms and legs of an octopus lost among antinomic statements.

If we were to take as example say.. men.. in which one of them do we see ourselves? In the guy who won’t leave the house before hiding his baldness underneath a cap? In the one willing to take mortgage from the bank and bear any pain for a hair implant where 20 hairs are added to the 8 left? In the rushed guy who wakes up 15 minutes before he has to leave and looks in the mirror once a month (and even then accidentally),noticing his ears don’t show and he has to get a haircut? Or in the guy who spends twice as much time as his own wife looking in the mirror, arranging his hair hedgehog like hair and fixing himself up like an ikebana?

But let’s not forget the ones who like to be always “fresh” and go for the shortest haircut, or those who even though have enough hair for an entire battalion, consider themselves “cool” once they shave their heads, glowing as light bulbs.

Not to mention the narcissist type, who spends half his salary going twice a month to fancy beauty parlors to try the latest dye on the market… And because I’ve just remembered an article I’ve recently read where they were looking for “shaggy” guys for a TV add.. the last but not the least category of hopeless rockers, who turn blue with anger at the sight of scissors.

I wonder.. why do we create different human typologies, superficially reviewing  some hairstyles? In fact, the above descriptions betray our sensitivities when it comes to hair. But is it natural for what happens ON our head to influence what happens INSIDE it? Noooo!! It would be wonderful if we could keep proportions of things irrespective of who we are or what we do, and know how to control our mental and spiritual stability.   

Eventually, the small joys of life and our inner satisfactions define happiness. The more the merrier. But when we establish our priorities we have to do it wisely. It would be entirely unfair towards ourselves or towards our kindred to give hairdos more meaning than is actually needed. As long as we know how to respect ourselves as well as the others, we will easily recognize exaggerations when they happen.

So..concerned or not about your hairdo, curly or not, blond or brown, bald or with hair bun, elegant or simple, control your appearance, emotions and attitudes, going through each stage of life aware of the fact that no matter what you do – you can always do better, as you can always do worse.